Do you know what annoys me when you talk about the plight of Trans people , you never actually listen to the truth about erasing , bullying & hating on women . Women are not against transwomen or otherwise they are against MEN who walk about swinging their dick in our faces while shouting & pretending they are women . They fear for their daughter's from these misogynistic abusers who want to get close to harm women & girls as they hate them & that's the reason they want in their spaces . Open your ears & listen to the narrative properly , women & girls have every right to fear from these MEN , they are predators & paedophile's . They abuse , bully ,threaten , slander & intimidate ,if they were actually fighting for actual transgender people why would they go down this route at all can't they hold an emotionally intelligent conversation ? Also parents are allowed to fear for their kids being mutilated & when they are being indoctrinated & forced by governments et Al for nefarious reasons !!
Hi Lorraine, there is a lot here. I've never had the experiences you have had and every trans person I've met (and I've met many) is mostly trying so hard to just survive, to get through, to have a job, to have a life, to be loved. Like all of us. The world's bullies – all those people who literally and metaphorically swing their dicks in our faces, as you say – are all appalling human beings.
It is never true to say 'they are predators' or 'they are paedophiles' because in a net that dense, you catch every single human being. Many predators and peadophiles are not trans.
I tried to teach my children to be aware that there are paedophiles, predators and abusers walking among us everywhere, and very few of them wear heels and make-up, but that doesn't mean heels-and-make-up excludes them from abuse. I tried to teach my children faith in their own abilities to distinguish between people with nefarious intent, and those who just seem different to mainstream.
In fact, it's often in mainstream situations where children and women are abused. So I taught them about doctors who touch inappropriately. They know that Christian ministers abuse women, that priests abuse children, that nuns who are so mean people have deep scars for life from being in a convent. Holiness and moral high ground often breed and protect perpetrators of violence against women and children.
Teachers with good educations abuse children. Parents and siblings and caretakers abuse, bully, threaten, slander and intimidate children (to steal your verbs).
The focus should be on bullies. Not on trans people.
All bullies are terrors. They create fear. And sometimes fear mutates into hatred.
My philosophy is to overcome my fear so that I don't hate great swathes of people and denude my life of variety, meaning, connection and joy. And to know how to protect myself from real danger.
I am lucky to know quite a few trans persons, and to be friends with some of them. None of them have ever "swung their dick in my face". They are all loving people that just want the rest of society to see them as they see themselves. For all of them, the journey of coming out as trans wasn't an easy one. Telling one's family, friends and society that they've had it wrong all along when it comes to one's gender, takes a lot of courage.
Somewhere in this world, there are probably some men that have dressed up as women in order to perpetrate a crime. A man dressing up as a woman, does not make them trans. It just makes them a criminal that dresses up in order to break the law. Please don't confuse criminals with trans people.
most of the trans women i know don’t even be showing those parts of themselves to sexual partners so i don’t know where the hell people are getting the ‘swinging dicks around’ thing. anyways, imagine if TERFs spent more time fighting patriarchy with us instead of fighting trans people 🤔🧐
re “also parents are allowed to fear for their kids being mutilated”: I’m assuming by “mutilation” that you are referring to gender-affirming surgeries? I am one of those “mutilated” people and I can tell you, with absolute confidence, that you don’t just walk into a doctor’s office and ask for them to remove a body part and then get scheduled in for a surgery the next day. there are processes already in place to ensure that all people (children, adults, elders) seeking gender-affirming care are guided through the process, given a chance to opt out at any point. this process is far more stringent with children — in fact, most children never undergo any surgical procedures. instead, they are given the tools to socially transition as ACTUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS monitor their health before any drastic changes are made.
you are a victim of propaganda and I would highly advise you do your own research before spreading fake news :)
And yes, no one gets gender-affirming care from a medical professional willy-nilly. It's a long and drawn-out process with many, many hurdles thrown down that have to be overcome with fortitude and determination (and with a lot of pain, I imagine). No one is pointing a gun at any child (or parent) forcing them to undergo anything. There are many, many hurdles on that road.
Thank you for writing this. With love from all transgender people.
Do you know what annoys me when you talk about the plight of Trans people , you never actually listen to the truth about erasing , bullying & hating on women . Women are not against transwomen or otherwise they are against MEN who walk about swinging their dick in our faces while shouting & pretending they are women . They fear for their daughter's from these misogynistic abusers who want to get close to harm women & girls as they hate them & that's the reason they want in their spaces . Open your ears & listen to the narrative properly , women & girls have every right to fear from these MEN , they are predators & paedophile's . They abuse , bully ,threaten , slander & intimidate ,if they were actually fighting for actual transgender people why would they go down this route at all can't they hold an emotionally intelligent conversation ? Also parents are allowed to fear for their kids being mutilated & when they are being indoctrinated & forced by governments et Al for nefarious reasons !!
Hi Lorraine, there is a lot here. I've never had the experiences you have had and every trans person I've met (and I've met many) is mostly trying so hard to just survive, to get through, to have a job, to have a life, to be loved. Like all of us. The world's bullies – all those people who literally and metaphorically swing their dicks in our faces, as you say – are all appalling human beings.
It is never true to say 'they are predators' or 'they are paedophiles' because in a net that dense, you catch every single human being. Many predators and peadophiles are not trans.
I tried to teach my children to be aware that there are paedophiles, predators and abusers walking among us everywhere, and very few of them wear heels and make-up, but that doesn't mean heels-and-make-up excludes them from abuse. I tried to teach my children faith in their own abilities to distinguish between people with nefarious intent, and those who just seem different to mainstream.
In fact, it's often in mainstream situations where children and women are abused. So I taught them about doctors who touch inappropriately. They know that Christian ministers abuse women, that priests abuse children, that nuns who are so mean people have deep scars for life from being in a convent. Holiness and moral high ground often breed and protect perpetrators of violence against women and children.
Teachers with good educations abuse children. Parents and siblings and caretakers abuse, bully, threaten, slander and intimidate children (to steal your verbs).
The focus should be on bullies. Not on trans people.
All bullies are terrors. They create fear. And sometimes fear mutates into hatred.
My philosophy is to overcome my fear so that I don't hate great swathes of people and denude my life of variety, meaning, connection and joy. And to know how to protect myself from real danger.
I am lucky to know quite a few trans persons, and to be friends with some of them. None of them have ever "swung their dick in my face". They are all loving people that just want the rest of society to see them as they see themselves. For all of them, the journey of coming out as trans wasn't an easy one. Telling one's family, friends and society that they've had it wrong all along when it comes to one's gender, takes a lot of courage.
Somewhere in this world, there are probably some men that have dressed up as women in order to perpetrate a crime. A man dressing up as a woman, does not make them trans. It just makes them a criminal that dresses up in order to break the law. Please don't confuse criminals with trans people.
Yes, isn't it funny...no trans woman has ever swung their dick in my face before either 🧐
most of the trans women i know don’t even be showing those parts of themselves to sexual partners so i don’t know where the hell people are getting the ‘swinging dicks around’ thing. anyways, imagine if TERFs spent more time fighting patriarchy with us instead of fighting trans people 🤔🧐
Yeah, if only...
re “also parents are allowed to fear for their kids being mutilated”: I’m assuming by “mutilation” that you are referring to gender-affirming surgeries? I am one of those “mutilated” people and I can tell you, with absolute confidence, that you don’t just walk into a doctor’s office and ask for them to remove a body part and then get scheduled in for a surgery the next day. there are processes already in place to ensure that all people (children, adults, elders) seeking gender-affirming care are guided through the process, given a chance to opt out at any point. this process is far more stringent with children — in fact, most children never undergo any surgical procedures. instead, they are given the tools to socially transition as ACTUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS monitor their health before any drastic changes are made.
you are a victim of propaganda and I would highly advise you do your own research before spreading fake news :)
source: https://sajhivmed.org.za/index.php/hivmed/article/view/1299/2582
note that my source comes from a medical journal and is compiled by actual healthcare professionals.
Thank you for this link, Siv. That's very useful.
And yes, no one gets gender-affirming care from a medical professional willy-nilly. It's a long and drawn-out process with many, many hurdles thrown down that have to be overcome with fortitude and determination (and with a lot of pain, I imagine). No one is pointing a gun at any child (or parent) forcing them to undergo anything. There are many, many hurdles on that road.