Why must sour people be so mean? What a dreadful way to go through life! I hope you find a better shopping option soon. Maybe online ordering would bypass the Till Karens.
Online ordering won't produce good stories though! No, I'm with you. I have never understood nastiness. But then I once said as much on FB and someone responded that when she was nasty to people, it allowed her to feel better about herself for a while. That made so much sense to me, and I was grateful for her honesty.
It’s logical, I guess, but it bewilders me that people who do this feel it’s worth sacrificing someone else’s happiness and self-esteem for their own. It has the opposite effect on me if I do it (unintentionally). But yes, I admire her honesty, if not the act.
It’s a life’s work, isn’t it? My recent life coaching sessions are helping to shift that mindset but my brain is freaking out about this “new” information/perspective and I’m feeling quite ill the last couple of days.or maybe that’s unrelated. Anyway, I mean to say I understand how you feel.
I agree. I feel terrible when I have made someone else feel bad in some way. The downside, of course, is that I am always willing to take on whatever ugly stuff people want to dump on me because obviously (!) I must be wrong. I am better at discering other people's issues from mine now, but it still takes a bit of sorting and worrying before I can see what to take on and what not.
You and me too Karin, it takes me days to create an imagined scenario where I slay with my words 😂 I’m just not a confrontational person and always freeze in my neurological response to situations like this! I do love my own imagined mini reels of being sharp and spitting nails where they need to be spat 🤬
It's an extra one! There are five letters this month, not four. I was so happy, because I'm loving writing these and just one a week is feeling too little at the moment! Sending love right back at you.
He was such poephol. Oh well. I'm training to become a Zen master. Ho ho. When people speak to other people like they are deeply stupid, it makes me seethe. I can't bear it. But I have to learn to get very calm about it here, because it happens all the time.
Wow, I think you're doing so much better than I would be - it sounds so aggressive and unpleasant! Is this a cultural baseline difference, do you think? Strength and all the zen fairies to you. xo
It is aggressive and it is patronising. But I know that it often also comes from a 'I am just trying to help you' place (not in Aldi mans case though). The problem is the underlying assumptions: 'you are a bit stupid', 'my way is the right way' and 'I have all the information I need to make a judgement on your actions'. As you know, I have a hair trigger for unasked for advice in any case, so I am having to learn to let this go. I am working on a strategy for how to deal with this. What usually works best is saying to myself about the other person 'Shame, you must be so insecure/hurt/out of touch with yourself.'
I think you are a better human than I am on this! I love the approach you're taking, I just feel so affronted by the assumption of stupidity that I am not sure I could hold my tongue. I certainly can't hold my face, lol!
Why must sour people be so mean? What a dreadful way to go through life! I hope you find a better shopping option soon. Maybe online ordering would bypass the Till Karens.
Online ordering won't produce good stories though! No, I'm with you. I have never understood nastiness. But then I once said as much on FB and someone responded that when she was nasty to people, it allowed her to feel better about herself for a while. That made so much sense to me, and I was grateful for her honesty.
It’s logical, I guess, but it bewilders me that people who do this feel it’s worth sacrificing someone else’s happiness and self-esteem for their own. It has the opposite effect on me if I do it (unintentionally). But yes, I admire her honesty, if not the act.
It’s a life’s work, isn’t it? My recent life coaching sessions are helping to shift that mindset but my brain is freaking out about this “new” information/perspective and I’m feeling quite ill the last couple of days.or maybe that’s unrelated. Anyway, I mean to say I understand how you feel.
I agree. I feel terrible when I have made someone else feel bad in some way. The downside, of course, is that I am always willing to take on whatever ugly stuff people want to dump on me because obviously (!) I must be wrong. I am better at discering other people's issues from mine now, but it still takes a bit of sorting and worrying before I can see what to take on and what not.
I don’t think I’ve ever had a non-stressful shopping experience in Germany, such an accurate description haha
I remember the story you told me about fetching the bread with the child in the pram and the long line behind you...!
A sky pond! I love that. As for the shopping experience, what an uptight unhappy soul. I would have been tempted to say something razor sharp.
I'm always so slow in situations like that. I'd love to be able to call on a sharp tongue, but I don't have one.
You and me too Karin, it takes me days to create an imagined scenario where I slay with my words 😂 I’m just not a confrontational person and always freeze in my neurological response to situations like this! I do love my own imagined mini reels of being sharp and spitting nails where they need to be spat 🤬
😂 Me too!
I've been waiting all week for an update! Damn Germans, can be so uppity. Sending love and wishes for adventures.
It's an extra one! There are five letters this month, not four. I was so happy, because I'm loving writing these and just one a week is feeling too little at the moment! Sending love right back at you.
'Do tiles have memories of walls?" 🙌🧡
And sorry about the shopping, urgh, sounds dreadful! xo
He was such poephol. Oh well. I'm training to become a Zen master. Ho ho. When people speak to other people like they are deeply stupid, it makes me seethe. I can't bear it. But I have to learn to get very calm about it here, because it happens all the time.
Wow, I think you're doing so much better than I would be - it sounds so aggressive and unpleasant! Is this a cultural baseline difference, do you think? Strength and all the zen fairies to you. xo
It is aggressive and it is patronising. But I know that it often also comes from a 'I am just trying to help you' place (not in Aldi mans case though). The problem is the underlying assumptions: 'you are a bit stupid', 'my way is the right way' and 'I have all the information I need to make a judgement on your actions'. As you know, I have a hair trigger for unasked for advice in any case, so I am having to learn to let this go. I am working on a strategy for how to deal with this. What usually works best is saying to myself about the other person 'Shame, you must be so insecure/hurt/out of touch with yourself.'
I think you are a better human than I am on this! I love the approach you're taking, I just feel so affronted by the assumption of stupidity that I am not sure I could hold my tongue. I certainly can't hold my face, lol!